Anna Sayuri Miyahira | あんなみやひら
“In what way is it different to share your emotions with your Japanese and non-Japanese parent?”
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About Anna Sayuri:
|Born in||the Netherlands|
|Lived in||the Netherlands, Spain, Japan|
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|Speaks||Dutch, English, Spanish, Japanese|
This is a very interesting question. Both of my parents are very affectionate, but in different ways. My mother is Costa Rican and my father obviously Japanese. My mother hugs and kisses me a lot and also say caring things to me, but my father doesn’t do that. However, he expresses his affection by his actions (I didn’t live with him because of his work, but each time I had school vacation, he went to Costa Rica to be with my brother and me) and also by the conversations that we hold and all the support he have been giving me. It is really different the way both of my parents show me their affection. I think that the fact that my father is Japanese and well, obviously his personality influence his way of acting.
In regards to my Japanese family, ever since I was a child first visiting them, I have always made sure I hug them hello and goodbye when I first see them and when I finally leave Japan. During my stays in Japan we revert to the more traditional Japanese greetings of bowing and language.
I’m closer to 40 now and all of my Aunts, Uncles, and cousins are used to this first greeting.
Here in America, we aren’t in contact with my Caucasian side of the family, for about 30 years now. I think this is due to the way my father is, personality wise.
Actually in my family its my Japanese mother that shows us more of the physical type of love and my Caucasian father is a bit more distant.
Good question. They have different receptors of emotions and the way they think, so I speak in a way they can understand.
No real difference with my parents, but my Canadian relatives there’s a lot of kissing and hugging, with my Japanese relatives we show our closeness through the language that we use – speaking in dialect, not using formal speech. I think the use of spoken language like that is just as much a sign of closeness as physical intimacy.